chargerfan
GOLD
Well first of all anyone who smokes pot and drinks Scotch "every night" has a real problem! So YA I don't want that person in my child's life!
The rest of what you wrote is also full of open ended holes.."belligerently drunk"? as opposed to slightly drunk would be OK??
If I knew of a family member or anyone within reach of my child that did drugs for weekend or weekday recreational drug use YA I have an issue with that person having any influence on my child.
For all you know, your coach is smoking a bowl every night. And that's the thing, you wouldn't know! Because it wouldn't affect their coaching ability! You could take your kid to see their doctor, and that doctor could have had half a bottle of wine the night before, and you would never know, because it is not affecting his professionalism or interaction with your child. Or the mom who offers to take your kid home from practice may have had a whole bottle plus some pot the night before!
Life is messy and you can't isolate your kids from every adult that enjoys a drink every night with dinner. It's just not realistic.