Agree, I've seen multiple (A level) coaches select big athletes and say they can teach them soccer. I've seen them ignore players who are technically way better and have way more soccer IQ. The talent is there (in the US), but the system sucks.
The MLS academies should help, but their feeder system is still managed by coaches like the ones I referenced, and the MLSs are looking at the "top" talent that those coaches selected.
On the girls side its all about college, for good reason from a parent's perspective. I would that 90%+ of the college games I've seen on TV or some even in person, suck. The standard / level is horrible. Good for the girls for living their dream, but as a system to develop USWNT talent, its nowhere close to what the same players in the Euro academies are getting.