Ask, tell, dismiss used to be the accepted guidance for coach behavior. With yellow being allowed for coaches now, it's not the guidance anymore. You get fed up with what a coach is saying, you card him, whatever color you deem apporiopriate. When it comes to dealing with parents, it's completely discretionary on removing them. I agree that to take that action there needs to be a very over the top comment. Either racial, homophobic, or seriously foul language, or calling out a youth, etc.... Definition of foul language can be different from person to person.Set me straight. Isn't typical guidance for off field dissent to Ask, Tell, Dismiss. Is it different for High School? It sounds like the ref went straight to Dismiss. I can see skipping Ask, but going straight to Dismiss seems very heavy handed and potentially an abuse of power. I don't know what was said and I don't condone obscenities screamed at refs and particularly youth players, but it seems very disruptive to the players and the game to eject an entire sideline for a few bad actors. Was the delay and disruption worth it to prove a point?
The ref only owes an explanation to the CIF, but then he goes on social media to bad mouth a parent. If he wants to file a complaint he should with the CIF, but there is something unsavory about trying this parent in the court of public opinion first. It seems that if he can out a parent on social media he could disclose what was said that required dismissing an entire stand full of parents.
I don't know the facts and I very well could be wrong, but something in addition to parent behavior doesn't smell right to me.
As none of us heard what this referee heard, and the only report was that he said he was called "gay", it's all hypothetical as to what happened. I seem to usually side with the experienced referee in hypothetical. Go figure....
Years of experience also play into that. I have heard outrageous crap flying off the sidelines.
As for the referee posting about it on social.... Poor move there to be sure.