My goals with soccer lead to my girl being a well rounded person and to higher education. I truly think there will be a point where she may have to decide if her time would be better spent with more academic/work development rather than club soccer in high school. My girl has a lot of potential, but she is not a goat. Also, I would like to add a preface to my demands of her to try her hardest. She can quit club anytime. She can join AYSO or other sport anytime she wants. She tells me what she wants and I help her follow that path. Part of the pressure and stress in all this is in club, you have to earn your spot.Seems like every parent wants their kid to be the goat. Does anyone hope n guide their kid to use soccer as a tool for a higher education or to become a better person etc., rather than hoping they play soccer to be the next Messi or Lloyd?
The ultimate pressure on our kids in club is to make the team. I'm the one that has to tell my 8 year old that she was not chosen to stay on her team. She would cry a lot more about that than me explaining that we have work to do to maintain her spot. Life is hard. Nothing is guaranteed. It's up to you to be relevant and earn your status and position in life. It's up to the parent to help prepare their kids for real life which is not cheap or easy in California. Some will be ready and some will not. I'm preparing my kids to be relevant and to be ready. Others can raise theirs how they want. We'll see what works in due time.
Club soccer is competitive. It is leveled. Not everyone gets playtime. It costs a lot of time and money from the parents. There is pressure and challenge all the way around club soccer for the kid and the parent, period! I kind of like it, because our kids get stronger and more focused. It's not for everyone. People can say whatever they want about pride and pressure on the kids from the parents, but the real pressure is there are tryouts and different flights. Just like there are managers, directors, and executives in business. I would just say the healthiest idea you can provide or try to embellish to your kids is to look at pressure and obstacles as challenges and hurdles in life you must jump over. If you let them stress you out, you're losing the battle imo. If you prepare, work hard, and eventually jump over them no matter what they are, you win the battle regardless.