I recall seeing it from CalSouth in the past, in writing where to sit, but I can't find it now. some tournaments very specifically list where spectators can sit, usually across from the bench, and some very specifically paint a DMZ at the center line.
This one hits close to home. My DD called it quits last season after COVID hit.
So many girls are burned out by all the lies and misinformation the last few years. Truly sad what some men will do to make money off the hard work of females. These girls will be moms someday and I bet most will stay clear of what some of them had to endure unless sweeping changes happen asap. My dd is going to give it one more try because she loves to play the game and have fun with other girls playing soccer. If her team is booted from the so-called top league, well then she will go play with the tier 2 players. At this point, my advice is to find a team for 12 months and hope all goes well and the lying is limited to just a little white lie and not a big fat lie. One of the head honcho Docheads back in the day told her if she left his club she will be black listed so college might not in the cards for her. She's find and is surfing as I speak. The good in all this she never had to live in a girls home for girls soccer players or play 12 months out of the year and I didnt have to spend $15,000 traveling all of the country. This is insane!!!
That sucks bro!!! I'm truly sorry to hear that. My dd had spies after her watching her ever social media post, all before high school. Had one top coach tell me he knows everything my dd is doing. He told me he had spies, no joke. I'm telling you all, you can;t treat girls like boys, end of story. Karma be coming soon!!! Anyway, we ALL learned from this Tech. I truly love you man
Since this is round 2 for me (older boys just graduated and dropped soccer when they got to HS).That sucks bro!!! I'm truly sorry to hear that. My dd had spies after her watching her ever social media post, all before high school. Had one top coach tell me he knows everything my dd is doing. He told me he had spies, no joke. I'm telling you all, you can;t treat girls like boys, end of story. Karma be coming soon!!! Anyway, we ALL learned from this Tech. I truly love you man
My motto was spoken to my baby girl back in 8th grade. She was told a by Mr. Boza Dochead that if she left his league that she will be giving up her chance at this and that. I'm not here anymore to bring up the obvious. it's a fact Jack, many 2021s and 2022 and some 2023s have had it very difficult these last 15 months. I'm super serious. Transfer portal for college is through the roof. All that means is the coaches have more to look at for next season. Plus all girls can come back for another season. Grad students as well. These are very very times.
Leagues have, in the past, specified where parents sit; CSL posted rules had the team and parents sitting on the same side of the field with the centerline separating them; SCDSL rule was both teams on one side of the field with the centerline separating them, with the parents across the field facing their team.
Dude your dd's situation honestly sucks and its horrible that there are so many relatable stories involved with youth soccer. I've been accused of a lot of things with my dd's last team and definitely understand the frustration involved with parents who obviously had no consequences for their actions when they were younger. Just have to believe that karma's a bitch and the bridges that those parents are burning now are not going to be there later when they need to cross them.
That honestly sucks and I am very sorry to hear that happened to your daughter. Having said that, what are you doing to make sure there are consequences for this coach? Would it be possible to name and shame them on the forum by saying something non-commital about how your daughter had a bad experience with this coach/team/club? Did you get a screen shot of the text? If so, did you report the coach to that club's DOC and board? Heck, I would post it on the club's social media feed as a comment.
The details are not important, but my son had a DA coach a few years ago who was a complete a-hole and destroyed my son's passion for soccer. I reported him to the club president with specific examples of his behavior. Other families with the exception of one, who were onboard with reporting him backed out for fear of retribution to their kid. The club did nothing, despite ample evidence from the two families and the annual coaches survey from other families (they claimed since the surveys were anonymous they couldn't follow up on complaints...WTF) . We left the club, but my kid was cut anyway and we weren't going to reward the club with fees for playing with a lower team. He is in a great spot now and has finally regained his passion for the game, but it took a couple years. I'm not a fan of publicly shaming clubs or coaches, or anyone you have a dispute with. I just think its in poor taste. I think you should deal with the individuals directly and move on. Interestingly, the co-coach with the a-hole just recently offered my son a spot to play up on his ECNL team. You never want to burn bridges, particularly in youth soccer, since clubs and coaches are always changing.
I can respect your position, but if you get to a point where you are done with soccer, sharing information via these forums is the only power we parents have. That is why I freely vent on coaches that in my opinion do not treat children with respect (Baker, Ocampo, Lemay) on this forum.
I get it and I should clarify, I'm happy to let anyone know who the coach or club is if they ask privately. I just don't put it on public broadcast. I know some of the names you mention are already well known publicly for their antics, seems they've earned that "honor".
I think the concern, and I'm guilty too, is that we all post ambiguous posts about certain negative issues/people with the clubs. But, if we didn't, then we could warn others of the bad actors. I guess everyone who has a kid graduating could drop the names and issues without fear of retribution???
I think part of the knowledge share should be to focus on what to watch out for as we all look for a team for our kids. For example watch out for:
