Things that make you go hmmm....

I often hear parents calling their daughter mamma on the field. It has always struck me as weird as these are typically 10-14yo girls. What is that all about?
I think it's a form of affection in the Spanish culture (no expert here). I've seen that often from our Spanish speaking friends on my DD's team.
 
My son's old DA team (which we just left) was the complete opposite. All the dads yelling at their kids and getting mad when another player makes a mistake (cause their kid won't make that mistake, no no no..). At the last game of the season, we were playing a pretty good team and the game was chippy. All of the dads were on the referee's ass, which imo, he was doing a really good job controlling the game. I'm just sitting back listening to all this crap and something happened where they went nuts over a call. The referee started to walk over to them and I just yelled out "I'll pay anyone of you fools $100 if you could go out there, run up and down the field while keeping up with the play and get every single call right". The referee looked at me, gave me a thumbs up and the sideline was quiet after that.

The DA Refs tend to be the cream of the crop, fit and evaluated regularly, which is why I will never be a DA Ref. Just fine with girls and boys U13 and under, I can keep up.
 
I really didn't pay much attention to that, but my point is that it's an o4 boys team and a few of the dads are yelling at their kids, giving direction to them, that kinda thing. I don't get it, I learned a while ago to just keep quiet and let them play. They're not going to listen to you anyway.

Even if they did listen, it would not matter most of the time. Sound takes more than a 1/4 of a second to travel 100 yards at sea level. So at typical soccer field distances, by the time a player hears mom or dad's instructions to shoot or whatever, the moment has passed.
 
Clubs or league admins really need to try and get a handle on this crap. Coach can’t do it from across the field.
First parents should shut their pie hole and as adults should have the ability/maturity to let the kids play without their vulgarity. A few years ago they changed the teams from sitting on opposite sides of the field with the parents on the same side as their team. When you had this set up it did two positive things, kept opposing parents and coaches from potential conflict and and enabled the coach to control his own sideline behavior. And yes i agree it should not have to come to this but we have all seen bad parent behavior.
 
First parents should shut their pie hole and as adults should have the ability/maturity to let the kids play without their vulgarity. A few years ago they changed the teams from sitting on opposite sides of the field with the parents on the same side as their team. When you had this set up it did two positive things, kept opposing parents and coaches from potential conflict and and enabled the coach to control his own sideline behavior. And yes i agree it should not have to come to this but we have all seen bad parent behavior.

A problem I have observed with the new arrangement is that some parents (GK parents especially) move into the enemy campground for half the game.
 
A problem I have observed with the new arrangement is that some parents (GK parents especially) move into the enemy campground for half the game.
Saw that a lot in Davis this weekend with G03's...sorta weird. Seems to me that 50 yards or so of sideline should be enough and you shouldn't need to move into the opposing sides seating area
 
Saw that a lot in Davis this weekend with G03's...sorta weird. Seems to me that 50 yards or so of sideline should be enough and you shouldn't need to move into the opposing sides seating area
Why is that an issue? As long as your just sitting and watching it shouldn't be a big deal. I do it all the time. If someone comes over and says something I tell them who my kid is then ask who their kid is. I usually compliment their kid and that's the end of the story.
 
Why is that an issue? As long as your just sitting and watching it shouldn't be a big deal. I do it all the time. If someone comes over and says something I tell them who my kid is then ask who their kid is. I usually compliment their kid and that's the end of the story.
You're right...as long as you're sitting and watching. Not always the case...
 
A problem I have observed with the new arrangement is that some parents (GK parents especially) move into the enemy campground for half the game.
GK parents don’t get to see as much of their player play during one half of the game if they don’t move. Field player parents can see more of their player for the majority of the game. If I’m on my GKs side for first half and depending on the tempo of the game (score/sideline behavior/etc) I’ll move to the other side and sit by the flag. It’s a great way for me to see where my GK made good plays and bad ones to talk about after the game.
I usually keep quiet unless my GK makes a great play..then I might say “good job” just loud enough for my player to hear and leave it at that. One time that happened and a few parents said “hey you’re on the wrong side”. I said “yeah I know..but my kid is coming back from an injury. I want to be close just in case.” (Which was the truth.) They were cool after that.
 
A problem I have observed with the new arrangement is that some parents (GK parents especially) move into the enemy campground for half the game.
Hold on, you were at a youth game. Your children are in there 30’s. Now that’s a lie. If you even attended a youth game and I’m sure your answer will be a circular one with no real answers. Yet, you expect everyone to give you one. What a joke of a question.
 
You're right...as long as you're sitting and watching. Not always the case...
I agree but you don't have to be sitting on the "wrong" side to cause a problem. Parents from opposing teams sit within 20' of each other , a few feet if they are at midfield.

Best interaction I had was with a parent from the other team while he was taking pics of his daughter in goal on our side of the field. We ended up talking about the colleges our kids had visited and how different the schools were in parts of the country, the difference in team/club philosophies and soccer in general.
 
I agree but you don't have to be sitting on the "wrong" side to cause a problem. Parents from opposing teams sit within 20' of each other , a few feet if they are at midfield.

Best interaction I had was with a parent from the other team while he was taking pics of his daughter in goal on our side of the field. We ended up talking about the colleges our kids had visited and how different the schools were in parts of the country, the difference in team/club philosophies and soccer in general.
Totally agree. Most parents that I have cordial conversations with and who have introduced themselves to me have been great. All the while sitting behind the net, to the side or just in corners.
 
Hold on, you were at a youth game. Your children are in there 30’s. Now that’s a lie. If you even attended a youth game and I’m sure your answer will be a circular one with no real answers. Yet, you expect everyone to give you one. What a joke of a question.
Wait, don’t answer. It’s like watching gold fish chase each other in a small tank. Useless.
 
Hold on, you were at a youth game. Your children are in there 30’s. Now that’s a lie. If you even attended a youth game and I’m sure your answer will be a circular one with no real answers. Yet, you expect everyone to give you one. What a joke of a question.

Answer to what?

My oldest will be 29 in August. He played in youth soccer games until 2010 (USL Super-20), and he was a coach of one or two youth teams each year until he moved to Sacramento a couple of years ago - I attended many of those games. The last couple of years I have attended games in which my niece was playing (she is just entering high school), usually at the El Corazon fields in Oceanside or the Polo Grounds in Del Mar.

Here is a family picture from last Labor Day weekend --

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I agree but you don't have to be sitting on the "wrong" side to cause a problem. Parents from opposing teams sit within 20' of each other , a few feet if they are at midfield.

Best interaction I had was with a parent from the other team while he was taking pics of his daughter in goal on our side of the field. We ended up talking about the colleges our kids had visited and how different the schools were in parts of the country, the difference in team/club philosophies and soccer in general.
Same. Happened with me in AZ RSL and my daughter scored got one past his daughter and he did nothing but compliment as I did on her good plays. Minus the college talk not quite there in age yet.
 
Even if they did listen, it would not matter most of the time. Sound takes more than a 1/4 of a second to travel 100 yards at sea level. So at typical soccer field distances, by the time a player hears mom or dad's instructions to shoot or whatever, the moment has passed.
Many coaches don't understand that concept as well. Please, no coaching will the ball is rolling. Coaches that don't understand that concept are poor coaches.
 
Coaches should coach the players that do not have the ball.
I never understood the mentality of having one coach. Soccer has defensive, offensive concepts and within those concepts of what to do on and off the ball. As long as the coaches subscribe to the same philosophy I see no problem with having a coach who's sole responsibility is to work with the defenders when the ball is in the attacking third, especially in the youngers.
 
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