Play High School or Not?

My DD (freshman) is on the fence about playing on her HS team. Several years ago the HS had a big shake up with the coaches leaving and the asst coach becoming varsity coach. Last year the varsity team was 1-19-1 (yes, 19 losses). DD is on the fence, on the one hand could give her alot of play time and experience.... on the other hand how much fun is it to lose that much and then there's the potential for injury too.

Thoughts? Has anyone's DD or DS had this situation? how did it turn out?

Thanks

They could have been worse. Coronado HS went from winning San Diego section a few years ago then firing the coach to a 0-12-4 record last year.

HS teams tend to have a lot of turnover and the quality of some teams can vary drastically from one year to another especially now with so many DA players not playing HS. Have her try it out. If she makes the varsity team she will make some new friends.
 
As @coachsamy stated above, the intrinsic value of playing for your school team isn't wins/losses, its the camaraderie that flows from playing with her classmates and upper classmates. Its walking down the halls between classes as a Freshman and having the Juniors and Seniors recognize you and invite you to pizza after the game.

this. 10 or even 5 years from now, they probably won't remember the score of this game or that game, but they'll remember the road trips, the pre-game dinners, and the friends they make.
 
The biggest leap in development for girls, IMO, is thier freshman year of HS. Playing 5 days a week, including games. Practicing with and against older, bigger, more mature players all the while (even if hey aren’t as skilled) is so beneficial. I’ve seen so many players come back to Club, after freshman year, far improved. All this is secondary to the benefits of simply representing thier school and classmates. As I’ve said before on other threads, HS sports are about so much more than the sport itself. Best of luck GG.
 
Good news is, she made the varsity team (the only freshman who made the team). She is excited like crazy. I'm going to sit back and enjoy the games and her excitement. Thank you everyone for your input and advice.
Hopefully, she has a blast. Now, see if you can stay clear of the DA train, so she won’t have to give it up. Enjoy the moments, they fly by.
 
Yesterday my daughters team played against a school with a GU16 national team player on the field. This player plays for a club that transitioned from DA to ECNL only and chose to play high school. Not sure if US Soccer would love this move but a case for the argument that girls at the elite level would play high school if given the opportunity stifled by DA.
 
Yesterday my daughters team played against a school with a GU16 national team player on the field. This player plays for a club that transitioned from DA to ECNL only and chose to play high school. Not sure if US Soccer would love this move but a case for the argument that girls at the elite level would play high school if given the opportunity stifled by DA.
In my experience, and through many conversations, it’s the VAST MAJORITY of girls that want to play HS soccer. No matter the skill level.
 
I know two elite players that played high school together two years ago together and had the best time. Both left high school last year to play in the DA. One left the DA and is playing high school again while the second one is still in the DA. The one playing high school is laughing and smiling and having fun and the other one, still in the DA, is lurking in the stands by herself, watching the games and very much wishing she could play. What a way to spend your senior year.
 
I know two elite players that played high school together two years ago together and had the best time. Both left high school last year to play in the DA. One left the DA and is playing high school again while the second one is still in the DA. The one playing high school is laughing and smiling and having fun and the other one, still in the DA, is lurking in the stands by herself, watching the games and very much wishing she could play. What a way to spend your senior year.

Yeah what a way. My senior is playing next year in college and without DA should likely would not be. Instead of playing a miserable game in the rain tonight with a team that none of her friends play on anymore, she is in Florida with 15 of her best friends. When she gets back she is on break during the holidays for the first time in years and gets to go snowboarding in Utah. What a way to spend a senior year!
 
I guess, on some level, if the HS experience and team sucked as bad as Simi’s kid’s did, this thread may not exist. I say this in all honesty, “good for you! Lil’ Simi”. You’re doing what’s best for you and your situation. Sounds like she will have “zero” regrets about her decision. Awesome! I really wish I could say the same for my DD. She’ll be playing DI in a couple years as well. But, that has nothing to do with DA.
 
Yeah what a way. My senior is playing next year in college and without DA should likely would not be. Instead of playing a miserable game in the rain tonight with a team that none of her friends play on anymore, she is in Florida with 15 of her best friends. When she gets back she is on break during the holidays for the first time in years and gets to go snowboarding in Utah. What a way to spend a senior year!

Let me understand this correctly...your DD has been playing 1 season at DA and that is the ONLY reason she made D1 school?
 
My DD will play for her school regardless of records, who is the coach, and any other possible distractions. HS Varsity sports are about representing the school and play for the pride of the school.

Don't let any of the outside negativity take that away.

Samy, didn't you post something about politics and BS the other day? any changes in your opinion yet? It can be a funny game with a variety of characters and issues, that's for sure
 
Let me understand this correctly...your DD has been playing 1 season at DA and that is the ONLY reason she made D1 school?

Let's be clear. If she had stayed with her previous club/team she would not have been seen. The DA showcases gave her the exposure she needed. ECNL would have done the same if that was an option for us. I believe the talent was always there.
 
I guess, on some level, if the HS experience and team sucked as bad as Simi’s kid’s did, this thread may not exist. I say this in all honesty, “good for you! Lil’ Simi”. You’re doing what’s best for you and your situation. Sounds like she will have “zero” regrets about her decision. Awesome! I really wish I could say the same for my DD. She’ll be playing DI in a couple years as well. But, that has nothing to do with DA.

Where in my post did I say that her HS experience sucked? And there is no reason to call me "Lil' Simi". Her team was undefeated last year in league and won league for the first time in years. But this year none of her friends are playing anymore either due to graduating or choice. So though she had a great year last year she does not miss it at all. I was just offering a different viewpoint then the one of the DA player sitting in the stands wishing they could play. Obviously every kids situation is different.
 
Samy, didn't you post something about politics and BS the other day? any changes in your opinion yet? It can be a funny game with a variety of characters and issues, that's for sure
Not at all. My DD stills stands strong about wanting to play for the Varsity team even though she's still can't understand as of why she didn't made the team. Yes I'm very disappointed to learn that politics is the single reason why she's not playing Varsity soccer, but that doesn't change the fact of what Varsity sports are about. She had a great time playing Field Hockey and Lacrosse in which earned All League awards in both sports in her first season.

As I was expecting that she would be declining playing for JV, she told me that she would embrace taking the captain armband and lead the group of F/S that look up to her. If the same coach returns next year I would encourage her to play another winter sport, or just take a break, because I have zero faith that she would be playing varsity next year as long that coach is there.

So to answer your question, my DD would still play for her HS over any other team regardless of the circumstances, well given the opportunity.
 
Where in my post did I say that her HS experience sucked? And there is no reason to call me "Lil' Simi". Her team was undefeated last year in league and won league for the first time in years. But this year none of her friends are playing anymore either due to graduating or choice. So though she had a great year last year she does not miss it at all. I was just offering a different viewpoint then the one of the DA player sitting in the stands wishing they could play. Obviously every kids situation is different.
Sorry for th misunderstanding, Simi. When I used the “Lil’ Simi”, I was referring to your DD. Not you. I’m sincere in saying “Good for her”.
 
Yeah what a way. My senior is playing next year in college and without DA should likely would not be. Instead of playing a miserable game in the rain tonight with a team that none of her friends play on anymore, she is in Florida with 15 of her best friends. When she gets back she is on break during the holidays for the first time in years and gets to go snowboarding in Utah. What a way to spend a senior year!
good for you that your DD is happy but broaden your horizons, I was talking about a situation where someone is not happy and missing out on something - as I have said over and over, there are many pathways and many different experiences, doesn't mean it is a statement about your world.
 
I know two elite players that played high school together two years ago together and had the best time. Both left high school last year to play in the DA. One left the DA and is playing high school again while the second one is still in the DA. The one playing high school is laughing and smiling and having fun and the other one, still in the DA, is lurking in the stands by herself, watching the games and very much wishing she could play. What a way to spend your senior year.

good for you that your DD is happy but broaden your horizons, I was talking about a situation where someone is not happy and missing out on something - as I have said over and over, there are many pathways and many different experiences, doesn't mean it is a statement about your world.

My horizons are plenty broad. I definately understand what you were trying to achieve by your post!
 
When she gets back she is on break during the holidays for the first time in years and gets to go snowboarding in Utah. What a way to spend a senior year!
My daughter wants to try Snowboarding. I asked her to wait until after she graduates from college and is done playing soccer. When she comes home for Christmas in a week I can finally take her.
 
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