Lots of good advice here and I now am seeking input.
I have a B05 flight 2 player. Old coach left after all players signed on and we have a new great coach. History with the old coach is he allowed players to cuss each other out on field (f bombs and the works) for poor performance, parents mirroring player behavior to point of ejections from field and we could never see eye to eye on it. Said they needed to work it out in the field and would be better players/team for it. It was first year of club for us and I saw my sons play deteriorate before my eyes. Coach and I agreed to disagree. His team his rules. I refused to have my son quit because it is a life lesson and sometimes life really stinks. But overall was not a positive experience. A friend of ours pulled her kid from the team.
New team has some old players on it. New Coach believes in having one di%% on the team, because he doesn’t want laziness and wants team mates to call each other out when they should be working harder.....I agree with that. Coach is very respectful to kids and parents. One player, team captain, continuously tells my son to F off when my son tells him to tuck in, etc. as the coach is asking the team to do.
I like this coach.....because I kept my kid on the other team he learned some crappy stuff by playing with some out of control behaviorally kids and I am working with him to undo that.....my son was harshly calling out a player on his team and his current coach said ok, now that you have called him out on it how will you bring his confidence up? I think it’s a fair assessment and the right thing to say/do. My sons response to me after telling me the story was, “I wish I had someone that had done that for me”
my son is doing what the coach is asking but this kid is being a jerk about it. It happens at practices and games. Does he talk to coach or do I? This coach doesn’t know all this history but I do think it still affects my kid. He said his message to the coach is: I am doing what you ask by calling ppl out but this kid is a jerk and I will never consider him MY team captain. Says it’s very unmotivating for him. So then his playing is suffering.
OR do I tell him to get in his face and shut him down and risk an altercation? I don’t know if the coach is aware this is going on but it’s happening with a few of the kids.
I don’t know if this is the norm for Boys teams?? Didn’t have a brother, have a daughter who plays premier but they still are not a-holes to each other.
I have a B05 flight 2 player. Old coach left after all players signed on and we have a new great coach. History with the old coach is he allowed players to cuss each other out on field (f bombs and the works) for poor performance, parents mirroring player behavior to point of ejections from field and we could never see eye to eye on it. Said they needed to work it out in the field and would be better players/team for it. It was first year of club for us and I saw my sons play deteriorate before my eyes. Coach and I agreed to disagree. His team his rules. I refused to have my son quit because it is a life lesson and sometimes life really stinks. But overall was not a positive experience. A friend of ours pulled her kid from the team.
New team has some old players on it. New Coach believes in having one di%% on the team, because he doesn’t want laziness and wants team mates to call each other out when they should be working harder.....I agree with that. Coach is very respectful to kids and parents. One player, team captain, continuously tells my son to F off when my son tells him to tuck in, etc. as the coach is asking the team to do.
I like this coach.....because I kept my kid on the other team he learned some crappy stuff by playing with some out of control behaviorally kids and I am working with him to undo that.....my son was harshly calling out a player on his team and his current coach said ok, now that you have called him out on it how will you bring his confidence up? I think it’s a fair assessment and the right thing to say/do. My sons response to me after telling me the story was, “I wish I had someone that had done that for me”
my son is doing what the coach is asking but this kid is being a jerk about it. It happens at practices and games. Does he talk to coach or do I? This coach doesn’t know all this history but I do think it still affects my kid. He said his message to the coach is: I am doing what you ask by calling ppl out but this kid is a jerk and I will never consider him MY team captain. Says it’s very unmotivating for him. So then his playing is suffering.
OR do I tell him to get in his face and shut him down and risk an altercation? I don’t know if the coach is aware this is going on but it’s happening with a few of the kids.
I don’t know if this is the norm for Boys teams?? Didn’t have a brother, have a daughter who plays premier but they still are not a-holes to each other.